In one of my workshops a participant said; "I feel like I am putting myself back together like a jigsaw puzzle, but I don't know what the picture will look like nor am I sure I have all the pieces!"

I couldn't agree with her more, 10 years ago  I consciously started the same process, a process to create health and happiness in my life. I made an effort to release all the things in my life that no longer served me , that no longer felt like they were pointing me in the ...

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Christmas prep can be stressful, shopping for all those you love, you start to feel pressure; pressure to buy the perfect gift, or just to buy something! Financial pressure - you probably budget for this time and pay for it in January when the Visa bills come and so after the Christmas buying high you feel lack and sorrow and restricted.  Let me know if I am off base here at any time LOL << MORE >>

Expectations...We all have them- we put them on ourselves and especially on others.  You think to yourself these are a good thing - they help me to push myself to try harder, to do something to please myself or others so I can live up to the expectation! 

It may not surprise you to know that I have a different view of expectations.

I believe that expectations by their very nature cannot exist in the NOW - they can only exist in the future or sadly, we can not have lived up to them in the past.  In reality the only time we ever have is NOW.   If we had a Time Machine and went forward in time the moment we arrived we would still be in the NOW not the future and summarily if we went backwards into our past the moment we arrived there we would still be in the NOW.  Expectations cannot be in the present moment because they are something you have not achieved yet.  So if expectations do not exist in the NOW where are they? 

Expectations are really nowhere, so if they are nowhere, can they be something? What are they?  Expectations are really statements of lack.  They are words and ideas that tell you that you are missing something.  They are a belief  that you do not have the 'Thing' you wish to have right now!  So you are living in the state of lack, so you create an expectation and then you strive for it and hope to one day receive it.  So now you are living in the energy of lack;  you are living in the belief you do not deserve that thing you want  right now but at some time in the future.   If you work hard enough or please someone more then you will achieve that expectation and THEN you will be happy, but right now you cannot be happy because you do not have the thing or that person's approval or respect or whatever you have deemed you were lacking.

So this being the case then expectations by definition means that there is something you aspire to have or be.   There is something that you are not feeling right now and therefore you feel in this moment that you do not have it but one day you will  'expect' to have it appear.  This means you wait for an outside source to tell you or demonstrate to you that you have finally achieved the thing you did not have and therefore you must have acquired it! 

I have the belief that what you feel you do not have will never appear to you from an outside source until you have defined and created it within the self first.  Whatever you are feeling on the inside will attract what matches it from the outside, so if you love and approve of who you are on the inside and do not need other peoples approval, then approval and love will come from the outside because that energy is matching the energy you are putting out into the world.  When you feel you are in lack of something then you create the energy of lack and the thing you wish to have cannot come to you because the energy doesn't match.   So expectations create a barrier to the thing you are hoping to attract. 

Remember when I am talking about expectations I am not talking about goals or dreams or something you are working toward because all of these things mean you are already in the energy of creating them.  When you set a goal you are already in the acceptance of that thing, you are moving toward it and it is usually a concrete thing or feeling - expectations mean you are not in the energy of it,  you are trying to find the energy of it and so you have not created the energy yet.

When you place expectations on yourself or others or try to achieve the perceived expectations of others and wait for them to live up to them you are acknowledging and creating lack.    You are making it impossible to be happy and content because you are constantly trying to live up to and achieve something that does not really exist.   This is like trying to fill a bucket with a big hole in the bottom, you can keep pouring the energy in but it will not stay there and create anything,  it will just run through and you will try to fill that bucket forever.

So release yourself and others from expectations of any kind - acknowledge what you are achieving and who you are RIGHT NOW!- Concentrate on the amazing things you are doing  right now and repair the hole in your soul's bucket - fill it up with love and approval for who you are and what you have accomplished in your life so far.  The same holds true for the expectations you place on others - just acknowledge and celebrate who they are right now and tell them you love and approve of them right now.   You do not have to agree with the things they are doing but you can certainly love them for who they are - remember if they were taken from you tomorrow all those expectations would mean nothing!

When you release yourself and others from the yoke of trying to live up to other peoples expectations and live to make yourself happy then you can be proud of your achievements and triumphs because you have done them to please yourself and to create a higher better version of who you are.  You will no longer be the victim of needless suffering because you are not striving to please someone else, you are striving to please yourself and create who you are and not someone else's version of who you should be.

So I ask you again ...What Do You Expect?

I wanted to put down a few thoughts about the BP Oil Spill in the Gulf of Mexico.  I hear the reports and have seen the devastation and potential for even more, that being said I want to add another perspective on the subject. 

I wonder if we realize that when we send the energy of sadness and blame and judgement to the situation we are adding more negative energy to the situation.  I once heard a great story about Mother Theresa, Someone asked her if she would join their march to protest the war, she replied " no I will not march to protest War ...but if you ever have a March for Peace, I will join you!"  This thought stuck with me.  We know as healers that we cannot heal with negative or dense energy we must heal in a higher vibration - this is why we send love to someone who is sick.  I also thought about the work of Masaru Emoto the Messages from the water scientist and what he found out about water.  He found that water responds positively to positive energy and does not form crystals when negative energy is directed at it. 

So I have decided that I choose to no longer send any sadness, blame or judgement to this situation, instead I am sending love understanding and compassion.  I am sending love to those who are desperately trying to right the wrong. I am sending love to the workers who have experienced such great loss, and feel so bad.  I am sending gratitude to BP because I know that they are trying to supply our need for fossil fuels so my house is warm and my car runs.  I am sending a warning, a road block to all the sentient sea creatures in the area saying turn around my friends this route is not safe, find an alternative route. I cannot undo what has been done but I can change how I feel about it, so I am sending love to the water and the oil so they can form beautiful loving crystals so we can turn the tide into a positive.

I choose to send love...Will you join me?

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