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The last "Peace" of the puzzle.

2011-08-04T19:42:20Z

In one of my workshops a participant said; "I feel like I am putting myself back together like a jigsaw puzzle, but I don't know what the picture will look like nor am I sure I have all the pieces!"

I couldn't agree with her more, 10 years ago  I consciously started the same process, a process to create health and happiness in my life. I made an effort to release all the things in my life that no longer served me , that no longer felt like they were pointing me in the direction of happiness. Sometimes it was a chore just finding the thing that was making me unhappy because I had done the same thing for so long it didn't feel like a choice any more. As I systematically uncovered the things that were holding me back and causing me to be ill or unhappy I found that I became more and more aware of who I really am - that I am not defined by others opinions, but rather my response to them.  That I am not what my report cards said, but rather that they are only a reflection of what I had learned not what I am.  That I am not my job but rather that my job is a way for me to move through a physical world.

As I found and added more and more of what I am going to refer to as my "authentic" puzzle pieces I started to see a clearer and deeper picture of who I truly am! That I am a soul with an amazing purpose, a finite expression of the infinite seeking to realize and experience my connection to the all that is! And the puzzle started to take shape and form and started to lead me in different directions and the pieces that did not belong in my puzzle started to fall away and I let them go with love because I knew that they too were looking for the perfect puzzle to fit into.   Sometimes those pieces were people, or ideas and beliefs and some were physical manifestations called allergies, asthma and chronic back pain. These pieces just fell away because they no longer matched this new version I had created. As I put more and more pieces into this puzzle called 'me' I saw that the picture I was creating was immense and it sometimes connected to other's puzzles and we were able to help each other find those missing pieces.

This brings me to the place in my life just recently - last week in fact -when I attended a retreat hosted by Neale Donald Walsch and Em Claire.  As I traveled to this retreat I felt like I had identified the puzzle pieces but I just couldn't find where and how they fit into the puzzle. So my intention was to allow my being to expand and bring into clear view that which I already know but which I couldn't seem to step into, which is the "being" of it.  I felt like I was "doing" it but not "being"it all the time. My holistic healing practice brings me such immense joy and excitement but there were parts of me that were still buying into the illusion that this was just something I was 'doing" and I experienced moments of doubt.   How would I be able to shift this illusion and get out of my own way long enough to truly step into what I had created and BE it, be my soul's desire?

Then Neale in his wonderful and reverent way read to us a blog by Em Claire and my whole being drank in those beautiful words and I saw that I am not alone on this journey that what I feel and what I know and what I am is much bigger than that one small illusion called 'doubt' and I was not 'broken' but rather 'broken open' as Em so eloquently put it and in that one moment all those wonderful pieces of my puzzle just fell into place. I saw in that moment "who I really am", that I am an amazing and beautiful soul.  That even if I am not 'doing' the thing called facilitating healing that I am 'being' the energy of love, compassion and understanding because I am giving those things to myself and by extension of our connectedness then to all others! That I am an integral part of a movement toward these things. I am identifying where my pieces of the puzzle are and what the picture they create looks and feels like. The amazing and beautiful extension of this "knowing and being" is that when I am facilitating healing I am now causing in others to "be" the same thing and that is my act of divinity. So I am not 'doing' I am 'being" and that my friends is the last 'Peace' of my puzzle!

.........Until I start the next one

Much Love to you Neale and Em and my wonderful spiritual brothers and sisters that I have met along the way.

Here is a link to Em's amazing and insightful blog:
http://vividlife.me/ultimate/author/em-claire/

Christmas Stress?!

2010-12-10T17:50:00Z

Christmas prep can be stressful, shopping for all those you love, you start to feel pressure; pressure to buy the perfect gift, or just to buy something! Financial pressure - you probably budget for this time and pay for it in January when the Visa bills come and so after the Christmas buying high you feel lack and sorrow and restricted. Let me know if I am off base here at any time LOL

But give what you are doing a thought....are you shopping for someone's perfect gift or for their perfect joy when you see them open it? Isn't it the way YOU feel when they open it or receive it that matters? Isn't it your JOY that makes it worth it when you see and feel THEIR joy that makes all that Christmas stress worth while?

So maybe it's not the "Thing" everyone needs, just the "feeling". Perhaps, maybe that same feeling comes with a hug or a lunch together, or chat over coffee, or a full day with you on the hill sledding or a warm cuddle with hot chocolate or sleeping on the floor under the Christmas tree on Christmas Eve (yea that one is mine So like so many Christmas tales tell us and we think they are trite - that isn't the presents or the shopping or the receiving perhaps it is the feeling that is created and maybe, just maybe we can create that feeling without stress and without a boat load of presents that cripple us financially or emotionally.

So this year have the courage to say to the people you are struggling to buy for - "This year you do not have to buy me anything. I don't require any "Thing", just your love, your friendship, your smile, your support or whatever it is you are wanting to feel. Take some of the stress out of the holidays and stop for a moment and truly ask yourself what do I really "need" is it some "thing" or someone or some feeling and then work as hard at getting that feeling as you did shopping. Because shopping for Joy doesn't cost a thing and receiving it from someone else...is priceless!

Much Love and Light to you all - all ways

Tanis

P.S. that sentiment probably won't be shared by small children - but you can always make more time and less presents

What Do You Expect?

2010-08-26T20:13:00Z

Expectations...We all have them- we put them on ourselves and especially on others. You think to yourself these are a good thing - they help me to push myself to try harder, to do something to please myself or others so I can live up to the expectation!

It may not surprise you to know that I have a different view of expectations.

I believe that expectations by their very nature cannot exist in the NOW - they can only exist in the future or sadly, we can not have lived up to them in the past. In reality the only time we ever have is NOW.   If we had a Time Machine and went forward in time the moment we arrived we would still be in the NOW not the future and summarily if we went backwards into our past the moment we arrived there we would still be in the NOW. Expectations cannot be in the present moment because they are something you have not achieved yet. So if expectations do not exist in the NOW where are they?

Expectations are really nowhere, so if they are nowhere, can they be something? What are they? Expectations are really statements of lack. They are words and ideas that tell you that you are missing something. They are a belief that you do not have the 'Thing' you wish to have right now!  So you are living in the state of lack, so you create an expectation and then you strive for it and hope to one day receive it. So now you are living in the energy of lack; you are living in the belief you do not deserve that thing you want right now but at some time in the future.   If you work hard enough or please someone more then you will achieve that expectation and THEN you will be happy, but right now you cannot be happy because you do not have the thing or that person's approval or respect or whatever you have deemed you were lacking.

So this being the case then expectations by definition means that there is something you aspire to have or be.   There is something that you are not feeling right now and therefore you feel in this moment that you do not have it but one day you will 'expect' to have it appear. This means you wait for an outside source to tell you or demonstrate to you that you have finally achieved the thing you did not have and therefore you must have acquired it!

I have the belief that what you feel you do not have will never appear to you from an outside source until you have defined and created it within the self first. Whatever you are feeling on the inside will attract what matches it from the outside, so if you love and approve of who you are on the inside and do not need other peoples approval, then approval and love will come from the outside because that energy is matching the energy you are putting out into the world. When you feel you are in lack of something then you create the energy of lack and the thing you wish to have cannot come to you because the energy doesn't match.   So expectations create a barrier to the thing you are hoping to attract.

Remember when I am talking about expectations I am not talking about goals or dreams or something you are working toward because all of these things mean you are already in the energy of creating them. When you set a goal you are already in the acceptance of that thing, you are moving toward it and it is usually a concrete thing or feeling - expectations mean you are not in the energy of it, you are trying to find the energy of it and so you have not created the energy yet.

When you place expectations on yourself or others or try to achieve the perceived expectations of others and wait for them to live up to them you are acknowledging and creating lack.    You are making it impossible to be happy and content because you are constantly trying to live up to and achieve something that does not really exist.   This is like trying to fill a bucket with a big hole in the bottom, you can keep pouring the energy in but it will not stay there and create anything, it will just run through and you will try to fill that bucket forever.

So release yourself and others from expectations of any kind - acknowledge what you are achieving and who you are RIGHT NOW!- Concentrate on the amazing things you are doing right now and repair the hole in your soul's bucket - fill it up with love and approval for who you are and what you have accomplished in your life so far. The same holds true for the expectations you place on others - just acknowledge and celebrate who they are right now and tell them you love and approve of them right now.   You do not have to agree with the things they are doing but you can certainly love them for who they are - remember if they were taken from you tomorrow all those expectations would mean nothing!

When you release yourself and others from the yoke of trying to live up to other peoples expectations and live to make yourself happy then you can be proud of your achievements and triumphs because you have done them to please yourself and to create a higher better version of who you are. You will no longer be the victim of needless suffering because you are not striving to please someone else, you are striving to please yourself and create who you are and not someone else's version of who you should be.

So I ask you again ...What Do You Expect?

What Energy are you Sending?

2010-05-05T21:47:19Z

I wanted to put down a few thoughts about the BP Oil Spill in the Gulf of Mexico. I hear the reports and have seen the devastation and potential for even more, that being said I want to add another perspective on the subject.

I wonder if we realize that when we send the energy of sadness and blame and judgement to the situation we are adding more negative energy to the situation. I once heard a great story about Mother Theresa, Someone asked her if she would join their march to protest the war, she replied " no I will not march to protest War ...but if you ever have a March for Peace, I will join you!" This thought stuck with me. We know as healers that we cannot heal with negative or dense energy we must heal in a higher vibration - this is why we send love to someone who is sick. I also thought about the work of Masaru Emoto the Messages from the water scientist and what he found out about water. He found that water responds positively to positive energy and does not form crystals when negative energy is directed at it.

So I have decided that I choose to no longer send any sadness, blame or judgement to this situation, instead I am sending love understanding and compassion. I am sending love to those who are desperately trying to right the wrong. I am sending love to the workers who have experienced such great loss, and feel so bad. I am sending gratitude to BP because I know that they are trying to supply our need for fossil fuels so my house is warm and my car runs. I am sending a warning, a road block to all the sentient sea creatures in the area saying turn around my friends this route is not safe, find an alternative route. I cannot undo what has been done but I can change how I feel about it, so I am sending love to the water and the oil so they can form beautiful loving crystals so we can turn the tide into a positive.

I choose to send love...Will you join me?

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2010-04-29T15:07:31Z

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